Unlearning “Perfect” As a Woman of Color in a Racist World

Perfectionism is often a trait of many folks who are in recovery from eating disorders, including me. My childhood traumas left me feeling flawed, inherently bad, and not good enough for anyone. I believed that if I was a “good girl” and excelled at all things, my life would be better. School became my escape […]

Coming Home to My Body

​I didn’t always hate my body. I remember running barefoot in the soft, freshly mowed grass as a little girl, chasing after fireflies. I remember digging through dirt to pull out weeds in the garden, and planting my mom’s favorite flowers. I remember hiking through the woods behind my house, imagining I was moving among […]

Caring for Someone With an Eating Disorder: The Importance of Self-Care for Caregivers

The Importance of Self-Care for Caregivers During the safety demonstration on airplanes, the flight attendants always remind passengers flying with children to apply their own oxygen mask before they place one on their child. Why? You need to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. The Challenges of Being a Caregiver […]

15 Things Every Caregiver Should Know About Navigating Eating Disorders

Knowing the right thing to do or say is not always easy, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution to navigating eating disorders. In fact, the “right thing” to say one day may be the “wrong thing” to say the next. It is a challenge both for the individual battling an eating disorder and their support […]

Yes, I Had an Eating Disorder

For some, this may come as a surprise, but for the majority of my teen years, I was consumed by an eating disorder. It has been difficult for me to speak about it openly because I kept it a secret for so long. Part of the reason I was able to keep my struggles hidden […]

Finding Me: Discovering My Transgender Identity

There have been many moments in my life when I have questioned if I am lovable. My belief about what being lovable looked like began when I was a toddler and realized I’d much rather play with the boys than be around the girls. As we aged together I began to feel rejected as some […]